Men are the hunter-gatherers. They’re the ones who bring home the bacon, often in the form of money. Money they get from their high-paying, high-status jobs.
Well, here’s a fun fact: My partner earns more than I do. She brings home more figurative bacon.
In our relationship, she’s more of a hunter-gatherer than I am.
So, the way I see it, that leaves two possibilities:
1 – I’m not a man.
2 – It’s okay for the woman in the relationship to earn more than the man.
Now, I’m pretty sure that number 1 is wrong. I consider myself a man. That leaves number 2.
Could it really be okay for my partner (who is a girl, just to make that really clear) to earn more than I do?
The answer, in case it isn’t blindingly obvious, is YES. It’s perfectly fine. It doesn’t bother me at all.
In fact, it actually takes the pressure off.
I can’t begin to imagine how stressful it must’ve been when the women stayed at home and it was solely the men’s responsibility to make the money.
If the man couldn’t work and couldn’t get paid then he’d be useless and they’d be in serious trouble. The woman would probably look elsewhere.
So, the fact that my partner earns more than me actually makes things a little easier.
And it doesn’t make me feel like less of a man. Not one bit. Chances are she’ll earn more than me for the rest of our lives. I’m a writer. We aren’t known for our financial stability.
It’s nice that I don’t have to worry about keeping the entire household afloat. It’s nice that we have more money as a couple than if I was the sole breadwinner.
If you feel ashamed or emasculated because you earn less than your partner, here’s some advice… Don’t.
Don’t be ashamed. There’s literally not a single thing wrong with it.
It’s no longer only our responsibility to bring home the bacon. Now everyone can bring home the bacon equally.
And as far as I’m concerned, that just means more bacon.
Now I’m hungry.